Posts Tagged With polyamory
Polyamory is a portmanteau word and to be perfectly accurate a false cognate in that the Greek Polly meaning many and the Latin Amor (Love) are brought together to indicate a sexuality and state of being in which several partners are not only shared, but loved.
It’s a concept that many religions would frown upon, particularly in the western world where fidelity and monogamy are central tenets of a moral structure based on Christian teachings. So like many alternative lifestyles it can be difficult for polyamorous individuals and groups to express their lifestyle and feelings openly. Blogs offer a perfect opportunity for these people to express themselves while maintaining a level of anonymity, without which they would be unwilling to speak openly.
This topic is probably making SwingBot sweat and BG run for the hills. So, my dears, let me preface this by saying that it is not about our current activities, and not about changing our arrangement. Please relax...
Last night was another night of tears. DomC reached out to Mina again to give the new official stance: that he couldn’t be her master anymore or such a part of their life, but they could continue to be “recreation.”
We were at McDonald’s in Tiengen, Germany. She was having a Big Mac, I was having a 1955er. We are having a nice chat and then she tells me, “So C and I exchanged ‘I love yous’ last time.” Abruptly, I absolutely shut down in response. The immediate thought in my head: she’s going to get hurt. And, once again I would be picking up the pieces. There’s a cycle to these secondary relationships, and we’ve lived it many, many times.
The instruction to the boy to follow her was clear enough and certainly not a request. The previous instruction to strip naked had been just as clear. As she reached out and grabbed him by the cock, he had no idea where he was being led, or why.
To have a healthy relationship with someone else, you must first have a healthy relationship with yourself. To be with someone else you must first be okay with being alone.
As submissives, we live for the after-care, the loving, the comforting, the rewarding. In other words, the CAKE! Let’s face it, we do it for the cake. After we’ve suffered at the hands of our tormentors, how can they possibly refuse us the CAKE?
My life is not complete, I am discovering, without the yin yang.
Relationships. No matter what kind you are in, they are complicated as is. So why complicate them even more? Why take the relationship between two people, already something that takes a lot of work to make a success, and start adding more people to it?
The Sister Wives challenge of Utah's polygamy laws is really about challenging outdated sex laws aimed at polygamists and gays but also affect the consensual adult relationships of others.
A month ago, I mentioned that I went to a Swiss Poly Group social. While there, naturally, I perused the pickings. Most men there were not of interest to me from a physical attraction stand point. Except for one. Lucky for me, English was one of the languages he spoke. However, he spent most of the evening speaking to everyone in German. He and I exchanged very little words in English. I left that night, making sure to wish him a good night. A very subtle hint that I noticed him and was interested.